His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-proof Marriage
His Needs, Her Needs is designed to change the course of a marriage. Using a conversational style, Dr. Harley helps couples understand why their best intentions are not enough to prevent marital incompatibility. Couples must do more than want to meet each other's needs--they must actually meet them!
Ignorance often contributes to a couples failure to care for each other. Men tend to try to meet needs that they value and women do the same. But their needs are often very different and they waste effort trying to meet the wrong needs.
The right needs are so strong that when they're not met in marriage, people are tempted to go outside marriage to satisfy them. But aside of the risk of affair, important emotional needs should be met for the sake of care itself. Marriage is a very special relationship. Promises are made to allow a spouse the exclusive right to meet some of these important needs. When they are unmet, it is unfair to the spouse who must go through life without ethical alternatives.
Dr. Harley describes the ten emotional needs of men and women. He helps you identify which are the most important to you and your spouse, helps you communicate them to each other, and helps you learn to meet them.
Successful marriages require skill--skill in caring for the one you promised to cherish throughout life. Good intentions are not enough. His Needs, Her Needs was written to educate you in the care of your spouse. Once you have learned it's lessons, your spouse will find you irresistible, a condition that's essential to a happy and successful marriage. It will also help you eliminate the major cause of infidelity. (2001, Hardcover - 220 pages)
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